If I am being as cautious with my memory as I usually am, I met Atiq sometime in January. As I stepped out of the house, without the mask on my face (the second wave hadn’t hit yet and neither had my fear of the pandemic) I made it a point to not latch the gate too loudly as the clung sound of the latch hitting its socket invariably woke Apollo up. He would then follow me, his tail wagging, his salivating mouth waiting to eat the Good Day biscuits I would buy for him (They cost five rupees and each pack had seven biscuits). Although I am used to it by now and welcome it with a smile, initially I was so keen on being by myself on this short walk of mine that anything hindering this ten-minute-a-day solitude was something I viewed with irritation.
As habit, when I latched the gate of my home, I thought of something to think about on this walk of mine and vowed to stop thinking about it by the time I came back home. This particular way of thinking, on occasion helped but more often than not ended with me thinking long after I fed Apollo his biscuits, returned from my walk and latched the gate the second time that evening.
I thought keenly about the few freelance journalists I had discovered on Instagram and how stalking their profiles, reading their articles, understanding the work they do and reading how they responded to comments on their photos made me wonder if I was taking up too much space in the world and doing too little. In fact, my predominant thoughts nowadays were about strangers on the internet: women with gumption writing, writing, writing away.
“It is the pandemic, there isn’t much you can do” the small part of my brain always keen on comforting me remarked. I thought more about bravery, how much it mattered to journalism and if it is a skill to be learnt or something which is born out of oppression; because if it is the latter I told myself soaked more in misgivings than in sweat–as I crossed the aunty on my left selling jonna rotte–I am likely to never be able to do anything which even whispered bravery.
I paused my thoughts and smiled widely at the paan shop uncle and got myself five Marlboro reds and a pack of biscuits for Apollo. I tore the packet and took the seven biscuits out in a bunch and put it right in front of him as he paused, sniffed the biscuits, looked up at me as I stared right back and then started eating them. After he finished his fifth biscuit, I turned to walk back home and walked slowly, knowing it would make it easier for Apollo to catch up to me. I had unpaused my thoughts, shifted into a new one and thought about Pranav who remarked to me once, around three years ago that “Journalism isn’t for you”. He said this in a scathing, superior tone. As I found myself caught up in an old, painful memory, I heard Atiq’s voice say “Excuse me?”
I half-turned, stared at him, unsure what to say as he walked closer to me and asked “Is this your dog?” his words clearer, his syllables more rounded than mine which wafted off into shapeless murmurs. I noticed Apollo at my heels, his tail wagging and now that I was no longer in transit, he rubbed the sides of his face against my left leg, demanding to be petted. “Um, no.” I replied “He just stays in the gully and I feed him occasionally. So he is used to me now.” I bent down to pet Apollo for a few seconds before standing up again.
We stood at the beginning of my gulli: Atiq and I with Apollo between us, his head against my left calf. Atiq then mentioned in a calm, settled voice that he had seen me before. I asked him if he studied at the University a few blocks away and he responded with affirmative surprise and asked me how I knew. “Most foreigners in M.G.Road are here because of the University.” I said in the most matter-of-fact tone I could conjure up as I slipped my right palm under my left elbow and let both hands hug my tummy.
The conversation was a brisk exchange of facts: I asked him where he was from and he told me that he was from Bangladesh. He asked me if I had lived in this city all my life and I said I had. I asked him if things were okay back home and he said they weren’t bad where he was from but the surrounding areas weren’t as lucky. He told me he lived in the lane across from Banda’s gym with his brother and another friend. I told him that I lived with my parents and my brother in this lane. His brother, he said was doing his masters in physics at another university nearby and that he chose to study English. Keen on knowing how old he was, I asked him which year of his education he was in and he told me that he was in the second year of his bachelors degree. I told him that I got a masters in English myself and as he remarked that it was very rare to bump into an English major on the road, if at all ever, a part of my head registered the fact that he was at the least three to four years younger than me. He asked me for my number and I smiled uneasily as he responded with a warm parting of his lips and added that it was “okay to not give him my number if I didn’t want to” and I, partly out of politeness and partly because I found him intriguing punched in my email ID into his phone (a more cautious choice I thought, than giving him my number).
I then said goodbye, walked back into my home and headed for the first floor bathroom where I had for the last three years, stared at the mirror and smoked as thoughts in my head poured out of my lips in a conversation I had with my reflection. I wondered if Atiq was flirting with me and brushed aside the idea because I didn’t look pretty enough to be flirted with that evening. I was sweating, my hair was in a disheveled bun and if my memory served me right as it did about the simpler facts of life, I hadn’t showered that day. Atiq on the other hand, was clean faced even though he said he had just come out of the gym. I didn’t doubt the truth of his claim at all but felt a voice, buried somewhere deep inside of me wonder how one managed to take care of their health, their appearance and such when half of my time seemed to go in decoding and understanding others’ motivations even if they were just women with gumption on the internet who wrote, wrote and wrote away?
I checked my inbox thrice, maybe four times post dinner before putting my phone aside that night.
The next day I got an email from Atiq at seven thirty in the evening. What threw me off about the email was that he had said “Where are you?” instead of “How are you?” which disconcerted me as it wasn’t how trite conversations worked and one was always supposed to be trite when befriending strangers of the opposite sex. Right? I wondered if there was something sly about this mail, or much worse if some unconscious part of me was plain xenophobic or if my fear was just the ever gyrating emotion of being a woman who met a man on the street and now isn’t sure of his intentions. Fears are trite too. Unsure still of the various possibilities, I decided to be cautious, pay some homage to a traditional idea of dignity and wrote back to him saying that I hoped he was well but the dates for an exam I intended to write came out and now I was fairly busy with that.
A day or so later (my memory falters a little here), I went for the usual cigarettes and biscuits walk with Apollo at my heels and thoughts of whether irrespective of the pandemic I must leave the city to pursue good, serious writing work. Unlike my earlier ten-minute-a-day solitude walks, I had an occasional eye on strangers in the road, amidst whom I assumed Atiq could walk up to me any minute and say hello.
I walked back with the same thought hanging in my head like a stray feather escaping from a pigeon’s wing does before slowly, slowly falling to the ground. There was no sight of Atiq. I kneeled outside the gate of my home and put the biscuits in a bunch for Apollo to eat when a “Hey, hello” voice made its presence known. I looked at Atiq and smiled a small smile and asked him where he was coming from. He lifted his left hand to show me the bag of fruits and asked me pleasantly if I wanted an apple. I said no and asked him how his semester was going. “Dull” he said. “Online classes are boring.” I said I understood and then I asked him about what books he liked. I don’t remember what he said next but we spoke about Agha Shahid Ali (the poet I had last read) and how terrible neo colonialism was. He spoke of his distaste for America which I agreed with and the words ‘cruel’ (he said) and ‘greedy’ (I said) were thrown around as a part of this conversation. At this point my phone buzzed and with that as my cue, I excused myself to go back inside the house with a meaningless “Be safe, see you around”.
“Who were you talking to outside?” Amma asked me ten minutes later, as we all stood, plate in hand waiting for her to finish serving herself rice before we could go next.
“Just this kid from the university at the Chaurastha. I met him when I went for a competition once. He’s from Bangladesh.” I think I used the word ‘kid’ purposefully to dull any worry that would arise from Amma.
“Oh I have seen him.” my brother remarked, biting into a noisy papad. “That tyre shop uncle told me that he has seen him buying drugs or something like that. Be careful.”
“I just said hello,” I said somewhat crisply. “I barely know him. Also that uncle could just be prejudiced.”
“Ah okay.” My brother said nonchalantly and as dinner conversations at my place go, we all found some gadget to spend our dinner with. I was partly amused by the whole drug anecdote. I know my brother meant marijuana when he said “drugs”. But which twenty something liberal arts studying person (including my brother and all our friends) had not done “drugs”. As I thought my thoughts, I tried to trace the green smell lingering in late-night university spaces back into my memory.
But the two meetings, my brother’s tidbit, my now disturbed walk, and some fear fogged by my ability to dissect things took over. So I messaged Neelam, a friend from the same university as Atiq later that night and asked if she knew him because I had bumped into him and he had asked if we could hang out sometime. I told her I was “just being curious.” She said she’d check and informed me the next day that while she didn’t know him, she had heard from a friend of hers that Bangladeshis’ from the university were hyper sexed and would sleep around here before going back home and marrying a woman who was virginal.
Uneasy and grateful for the tiny bit of anonymity texting granted me, I sent back a crying-lauging emoji and told Neelam that I had no desire to date him but simply wanted to know. On her end, Neelam continued with her story of her friend who had then made a sweeping generalization about men in “that part of the world” and had called them “sexual frustrated and repressed.”I told her, now a little bugged, a lot more shocked and with a caution I often employed that while I didn’t know her friend, I was wary of such views because they felt too harsh to be faithful to truth. What I of course didn’t tell her was that I was very wary and unsure where my wariness came from. When I told Devi of meeting Atiq on the road much after the whole thing ended, she laughed at my concerns of eyeing foreigners with suspicion and said “Only men come up and say hello to strangers, ask for their numbers na? Women don’t do this.”
The last time I bumped into Atiq was a week after I spoke to Neelam. I had gone out to buy myself some cigarettes and a tetra pack of Real pomegranate juice. This time Apollo wasn’t around as Amma had fed him some left over curd rice post which he ran around with his other friends. I thought again about writing because thinking about it was easier than just writing itself. I shifted from there and thought about an ex-flame, about writing about family, about Atiq and about that one friend from school who just dropped us when school ended for reasons still unknown before I finally settled on my own sense of ambition and how wobbly it seemed in the current political climate.
On my way back, I saw Atiq cross the road and so I slowed down and waited so that he could see me which he did. I wanted more details, something to shape the version of him which lived in my head but I wanted this without having to initiate a conversation. As I waited, he walked up and smiled his usual smile and asked me what I was up to. I told him about my purchases and he was surprised to know I smoked. I asked him if he smoked and he said that he didn’t. I giggled and uncharacteristically (for me) asked him if he smoked up and he smiled uneasily, looked away and said no. I wasn’t sure what prompted the no. “Either he was embarrassed by the question because he didn’t smoke up or guilty because he did” another part of my head informed me. The question, in all its flippant over familiarity was inspired by my brother’s statement a week ago. I got no clear answer unless sheepishness counted as an answer and I now found myself reddening because Atiq had reddened first.
Atiq after the briefest pause said “One of these days, we must get something to eat at the restaurant nearby.” Still withdrawing from that tinge of shame but relieved by the return to a semi-normalcy and a general state of unsureness which soaked our talks, I fumbled a “Yes. We should. The pandemic….is just worrying. My parents are in the risk category.”
“You don’t have to, you know?” Atiq said softly, almost kindly with just a tinge of exasperation. (I think) “No I would like to” I said and impulsively asked him if he would like to meet my friend Neelam, from his university and that the three of us could hang out. I don’t remember what he said in response to that. In fact I don’t remember anything after this question except Atiq’s face and the bottle of Bailey’s water in his right hand. But I remember it being civil for a couple of minutes more before we withered away and I went back home, to smoke and talk to the girl in the mirror. As I attempted to put together my memories of Atiq like a collage, I realized that I thought about him far more than I had listened to him.
What I next remember about this story is getting a rather unclear mail from Atiq the next day evening where he told me that he would be busy for the next few months and was sorry he couldn’t meet my friend. I replied some two hours later after some thought and said I hoped I was at no point unpleasant or rude and wished him good luck with whatever he was busy with. I ended the email by saying “Until next time”.
Atiq didn’t write back and a part of me was relieved but a larger part of me still wonders if there is anything I could decode about him from the information I have. I sometimes itch to mail him and ask him if he was flirting, if he was just lonely and looking for a friend, if he was ashamed of smoking up, if he did smoke up at all, if I had embarrassed him (because if so I didn’t mean to and I didn’t think poorly of him) but something: either some vague idea of dignity or some other unknown (but still trite, I am sure) fear prevented me. With the coming of the second wave, it has become fairly dicey to step out anyway and so I purchased my cigarettes, Apollo’s biscuits and anything else I wanted fairly early in the morning and stayed put at home for the rest of the day.
Staying at home helped: and as I unearthed more writers, more journalists on Instagram and Twitter, I found myself more keenly involved with the process of excavating parts of my personality which I didn’t understand. As for Atiq, it didn’t take too long before I found myself at peace with this ambiguity of not knowing him, and not understanding our interactions in all their strange informality.
To do him any justice at all, I told the woman in the mirror one evening as I finished the last of the cigarettes for the day, meant to not unearth his motivations.